They’d given me a minivan. They could have picked any car and they picked a minivan. A minivan. O God of the Vehicular Justice, why dost thou mock me? Minivan, you albatross around my neck! You mark of Cain! You wretched beast high ceilings and few horsepower!”
― John Green,
Today is rant-day. So be prepared.
Soooooo…..there’s this thing that I have often noticed…..Why are we always complaining? Why do we constantly stress ourselves out? Every time I get together with my friends these days that’s all we seem to do, it’s like we get a kick out of comparing notes on how miserable we are! Moaning that we’re fed up with life, we need a twelve month holiday, there’s toooooo much course work to complete and tooooo many assignments to complete in no time at all! It’s soooo depressing, not to mention exhausting to talk about time after time, after time…
We’re always putting this unnecessary weight on our shoulders. Comparing our lives to that of EVERYBODY around us! Why the hell? Convincing ourselves that we should be a lot more accomplished than we feel we are. Again, why the hell?
So-and-so got this award somewhere, what’s-her-face just got in a relationship, what’s-his-name just got into an awesome internship! We tell ourselves that we’re failures in comparison, that we could do so much better, that we need to come up with a five-year plan because of course that will solve everything! As Randy Pausch says “If you took one-tenth the energy you put into complaining and applied it to solving the problem, you’d be surprised by how well things can work out… Complaining does not work as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Any time we spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals. And it won’t make us happier.”…………….That’s true, right? We’re forever racing against time, contemplating our next big move, believing that the grass is greener on every side that we’re not on.
Aww maaaannnn……what’s with all this negative shit? It’s soooo contagious yet…….totally needless. So let’s just take a second to think rationally and cut ourselves some much needed slack.
Hmmmm……true. Sometimes it does help to talk to people from different backgrounds to our own, with different sets of responsibilities and priorities. People who in actuality may be a lot worse off than us but are noticeably more content with their lives. Often that’s all that it takes for us to realise that…….Oi! Self! PAUSE MODE!! We’re NOT epic failures, we DON’T have the worst lives in the world. We’re actually pretty lucky! Failing to count our blessings (which we have so many of) is something that we’re all guilty of.
So let me recount my blessings. I’m fortunate to be able to say that I actually enjoy my Uni life, I have no urge to scream into a pillow or pull my teeth out whenever Sunday night rolls around[mostly at least]. To my utter utter pride and delight, I have discovered that I can actually complete my assignments on time if I plan well. I have a roof over my head and have my food provided at required times. I can mostly overcome my social anxiety and manage to talk to people as I like. My family is more close-knit than it’s been in a long time. And I’m in awesome health. Most people dont get that, self. So get your head outta you-know-where and be happy!!!
These are some of the things that I need to remind myself of the next time that I decide to pay a visit to Emo Mode: this weirdass mode wherein the favoured way to pass the time is to pace the streets fretting that the world is against me. Well…..Newsflash dude: it’s not!
P.S. Look at me go….complaining about complaining! Hehe….:D